Do You Feel Dissatisfied, Unhappy Or Stuck?
Do you wake up each day feeling like something is missing from your life? Do you feel like you could be experiencing more joy and meaning in your life? Do you struggle with low confidence or don’t feel like you have a strong sense of self? It may be that you’re experiencing depression, anxiety or persistent worry or regularly feel stressed or overwhelmed by your daily routine. Perhaps you’re considering a career change, starting or ending a relationship or taking a different path in some way. Perhaps you’ve always gone along with the crowd, doing what other people have wanted, yet suddenly realize that you want to carve your own path. Or maybe on the outside you look happy and successful, but deep down you feel empty, dissatisfied or stuck. Perhaps you have dreams, but feel unable to make them come true. Do you wish you could achieve your goals, set healthy boundaries and make meaningful, lasting change? Although your life may be going well overall, perhaps you nevertheless feel dissatisfied and unsure what you want or need to gain a sense of peace and happiness.
You may want something different in life, whether that be a new relationship, career, hobby or simply changing the way you talk to yourself. It may be that you feel something is holding you back from making a change or that you don’t have the ability or tools needed to break out of a negative cycle and start over. A recent loss, such as the death of a loved one, may have left you feeling unable to cope. Perhaps anxiety and/or depression is interfering with your ability to get a good night’s sleep or stay focused at work or at home. It may be that a relationship has ended or is ending, or you feel lonely. You may feel dissatisfied with how your life is turning out and/or unsure what changes are needed. Or, you may feel scared and/or worried about how change might impact loved ones. Maybe you simply feel lost and/or disconnected, searching for a sense of purpose or wondering what your legacy will be.
It’s Normal To Experience Doubts, Worries And Challenges
If you feel overwhelmed, frustrated or lost, you’re far from alone. Everyone struggles, and it’s normal to feel lonely, sad and/or disappointed at times. Losses and discontentment are part of life, and it’s not uncommon to seek relief through unhealthy or unsustainable practices, such as drugs or alcohol, comfort foods or excessive shopping. However common, these “quick fixes” don’t work over the long term and often leave people feeling worse than before. Add to the common upsets and stresses of life, the rapid increase in technology, which has made our society a breeding ground for anxiety, stress, sadness and depression. We’re expected to be instantly responsive and always “on,” which can wreak havoc with emotions, sleep patterns and sense of wellbeing.
Many people hit a point when they realize that their life needs to shift direction, but feel unable to identify what exactly needs to change. Some never learned the skills needed to make lasting changes, while others feel trapped in circumstances and need help breaking free from unhealthy habits or patterns. Our society promotes independence and “going it alone,” but there are times when almost everyone could benefit from guidance and added support. People who become intra-dependent by building strong support networks typically cope better with challenges and have more hope and resilience in the face of adversity.
If you’re feeling uncertain, stuck or lost, adult therapy can help you find solutions, identify strengths and challenge negative thought cycles. A skilled, experienced therapist can help you improve relationships, find clarity and balance in your work and home life and manage stress, anxiety and/or depression.
Counseling For Adults Can Provide You With Skills, Reassurance And A New Way Forward
Adult therapy can help you identify and build upon your strengths and resources, develop strategies to overcome unwanted behaviors and acquire the valuable tools needed to implement meaningful, lasting change in your life. In confidential adult counseling sessions, I will listen to your fears and frustrations without judgment and offer you honest, informed and compassionate feedback targeted to help your unique situation.
In the comfortable, safe space of adult therapy sessions, we can explore the places in your life that are working well, which you can build upon, as well as identify the places that need added attention and care. We’ll work collaboratively to expand upon your strengths, identify your authentic values and develop a plan tailored to help you overcome specific blocks as you work toward creating positive change. Using a holistic approach, we’ll examine all areas of your life and develop useful strategies that you can experiment with, practice and draw from outside of sessions. Through this process, you can learn to communicate more effectively and get your needs met, honor your voice, manage strong feelings and cope with worry, depression and/or anxiety. You can also learn mindfulness techniques, which you can utilize to stay present in the moment and find balance in your personal and work life. Together, we’ll focus on helping you achieve personal growth, insight and a greater understanding of yourself.
Since 2001, I have been helping people feel better, more confident and equipped to make informed decisions and changes in their lives. I use a solution-focused, integrative and collaborative approach to best help you and your family cope with anxiety, depression, stress, loss and transitions. I am a systems therapist, which means that, instead of viewing you and/or your problem in a vacuum, I will explore how all of your relationships are impacting you, whether positively or negatively. In viewing a problem systemically, I will examine all the factors that could be relationally connected to the “problem,” including family members, friends, culture, communication dynamics, the education system, the natural environment, etc. Systems theory suggests that we look at problems collectively, rather than in isolation.
Often, I incorporate Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) into my work. ACT is a mindfulness-based therapeutic philosophy that inspires clients to identify what values are personally significant to them and to act on those values. ACT encourages clients to accept what is out of their personal control, while developing a flexibility to change the things they can. ACT aids clients in committing to goals based on their personal values with the primary goal of bringing more meaning to life.
I am also trained in clinical hypnosis and biofeedback techniques, which I incorporate when appropriate. And, I draw from multiple models of therapy, including:
- Systems Therapy
- Solution Focused Therapy
- Positive Psychology
- Narrative Therapy
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
- Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
- Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy
No matter how big or small your challenges or concerns may be, it is possible to overcome obstacles, mitigate stress and reach your goals. You can leave even your first individual therapy session with increased hope and strategies you can implement immediately to experience relief. With support and commitment, you can tap into your true potential, create lasting change and enjoy a more fulfilling, productive and joyful life.
You may still have questions or concerns about seeking individual counseling…
Do I need a diagnosis to come to and/or benefit from therapy? Or, are you going to give me a mental health diagnosis?
No. Whatever your unique situation may look like, almost everyone can learn and benefit from therapy. I am not a big fan of putting “labels” or “diagnosis” on people. You might be smuggling with “depressive symptoms” or “anxious symptoms” yet you are much more than you “symptoms.” And, by the way struggling is part of being human! My primary focus is on what is going well and your strengths. We will celebrate together and notice your strengths to help you make shifts in your life where you feel like they can be improved. And, if you are struggling, seeking help is the best thing you can do to get back on track. Committing to therapy demonstrates your commitment to living a better life. By working with a skilled and experienced therapist, you can learn skills to foster meaningful, lasting change, reduce self-criticism, relieve stress and feel more empowered in your life.
I’m so busy. I don’t have time to focus on myself.
Self-care is one of the most important steps you can take to improve and maintain your emotional and physical wellbeing. And, if you look after yourself, you’ll also be better equipped to take care of others. For many people, spending just an hour a week in therapy sets them up to move through life with more confidence, intention, and compassion, allowing them to reach goals and make a positive, lasting impact wherever they go. When appropriate, I also offer online or phone counseling if you are too busy to drive to me.
I’m worried that talking about my problems will make them worse.
While it is important for me to know the nature of your problem, my sessions are not just for talking about problems constantly, which isn’t helpful as focusing attention too much on “weaknesses” rather than strengths can leave you feeling helpless. My sessions are tailored to help you notice and identify strengths and solutions. Generally speaking, we will spend more time focusing on how to reduce or eliminate the “problem,” rather than intense focus on why the problem is a problem. Often, only focusing on the “why” does not give you the opportunity to make meaningful changes. I can provide you with a confidential, non-judgmental space where you can share and feel accepted. Individual therapy sessions are a safe space where you can relieve stress and worry and learn valuable coping skills. I will honor your voice, respect your boundaries and we’ll move at a pace that feels comfortable for you.
Learn To Reach Your Goals
If you’re ready to begin managing anxiety, stress, depression or simply gaining additional support, I can help. Call 972-489-2658 today for a free 15-minute phone consultation. I can answer any questions you may have about my practice and working with a therapist.